Quite often, we become our worst critic, we don't forgive ourselves and fixate our existence on the mistakes that we made. It's easy to forgive others, we can give them benefit of doubt but when it comes to forgiving ourselves, we don't seem to let go our blunders.

We know our shortcomings and our dark secrets, so we tend to outweigh them more often and the vicious cycle of self doubt and self hatred continues.

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According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, he gives number of needs which motivate people for life. Those needs are classified into two types, one type includes all the deficiency needs and the other includes growth needs.

Deficiency needs are a necessity while growth needs are superior needs, achieved by only few. In deficiency needs, he gave the need of self esteem a top notch priority.

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Self esteem can only be achieved if you go easy on yourself. If you allow yourself to indulge in negativity, you will never be able to be kind to your own-self.  Here are some ways by adopting which you can try to be kind to yourself:

Acknowledge your flaws

It is vital to love yourself with all your imperfections and flaws. Your flaws make you who you are. It's important to realize that acknowledging your flaws is first stage of improving yourself.

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Pamper yourself 

It is essential to realize that no one is supposed to take care of yourself except you. Take a long comfy bath, put on a face mask, oil your hairs, go for a long walk. Thing with taking care of yourself is that it will pay off, always.

Remind yourself of your worth

In therapy, the clients are taught self compassion statements which they are supposed to tell themselves whenever they are having a hard time. These might include the following,

• I am enough.
• I matter !
• I deserve to be happy.

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Invest in yourself

The greatest treasure we have is time, it is important to allocate time for yourself.  Take time to read your favorite books or a hobby you wanted to continue for so long but couldn't somehow. Make room for 'ME TIME' in your calendar.

Engage with the world

When we nullify ourselves, we assume that the world nullifies us too but it's not true. People need to be heard and are supposed to be taken care of. Meet your friends and relatives, volunteer in some program. The world needs you.

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Meanwhile, don't forget to smile.